#003 - Doubles
Monday, April 5, 2010
Another new week.
Today for something different, I'd like to share my personal experience in life after marriage. Afraid not, it is not some wise ass guide to a perfect marriage or to 'saiko' you to stay single, but rather a reality check for those who are looking to build that mosque soon.
Marriage doubles everything.
1) Income and expenses - Household income will get doubled. So you do have some cash to play around, buying things etc. First priority will be to get your home decorated. Things like sofa set, TV, bedroom set, dining table, have to be set up in early months of marriage. But the thing is, your expenses will be doubled as well, from food to all those little things you buy for your kitchen and bathroom, and your utilities bill. Manage wisely.
2) Love and hate - If you marry someone you love, you'll be happier. Period. But sometimes, a married couple can have a crisis or two. Remember this, you will know your spouse better after marriage, from their good to bad habits. For example, I used to hate watching tv in a bright room, but my Mrs likes the other way around. So we switch a faraway lamp. Compromise. I remembered one ustaz from the marriage course that gave an excellent tips to minimize the after marriage conflict - Pick 1 night, the sooner the better, say honeymoon night and declare all the things you love (hobby, interest) and your 'pantang tok nenek' to your love one. Do it before the other party found out the hard way.
3) Stuffs and junks - If you're a hoarder like me, storage is a must. I've got so many things from my previous single life cramped in boxes, and you got double again from your better half. We are currently still working on that LOL. One room full of junks. Your clothes might not fit into a small cupboard anymore, so buy a bigger one. Take 1 day to sort all of your junks and get rid of the trash.
4) Responsibility - You used to be responsible for your parents, and now you have your partner and it just get double again. Plan ahead for balik kampung trip, alternate between you and him/her.
I think that's about it (kot). Words of wisdom - Prepare, prepare and prepare. Are you ready?
I've been married for 3 months plus now. Not everything is according to plan, but that is just life.
Today for something different, I'd like to share my personal experience in life after marriage. Afraid not, it is not some wise ass guide to a perfect marriage or to 'saiko' you to stay single, but rather a reality check for those who are looking to build that mosque soon.
Marriage doubles everything.
1) Income and expenses - Household income will get doubled. So you do have some cash to play around, buying things etc. First priority will be to get your home decorated. Things like sofa set, TV, bedroom set, dining table, have to be set up in early months of marriage. But the thing is, your expenses will be doubled as well, from food to all those little things you buy for your kitchen and bathroom, and your utilities bill. Manage wisely.
2) Love and hate - If you marry someone you love, you'll be happier. Period. But sometimes, a married couple can have a crisis or two. Remember this, you will know your spouse better after marriage, from their good to bad habits. For example, I used to hate watching tv in a bright room, but my Mrs likes the other way around. So we switch a faraway lamp. Compromise. I remembered one ustaz from the marriage course that gave an excellent tips to minimize the after marriage conflict - Pick 1 night, the sooner the better, say honeymoon night and declare all the things you love (hobby, interest) and your 'pantang tok nenek' to your love one. Do it before the other party found out the hard way.
3) Stuffs and junks - If you're a hoarder like me, storage is a must. I've got so many things from my previous single life cramped in boxes, and you got double again from your better half. We are currently still working on that LOL. One room full of junks. Your clothes might not fit into a small cupboard anymore, so buy a bigger one. Take 1 day to sort all of your junks and get rid of the trash.
4) Responsibility - You used to be responsible for your parents, and now you have your partner and it just get double again. Plan ahead for balik kampung trip, alternate between you and him/her.
I think that's about it (kot). Words of wisdom - Prepare, prepare and prepare. Are you ready?
I've been married for 3 months plus now. Not everything is according to plan, but that is just life.
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demmm....sume pun double? lom triple lg ek? :P
wohoo.. ade ati mau triple kah? what u said absolutely true.. double of responsibility yg kene prepare myk~ not just our partner parents, but their siblings & relatives oso.. kekeke.. ;)
-fadz-
fadz, someday - bila beranak tu jd tige lah :P
yer, anak sedara pun doubled jugak. kalau dulu ada 4, skrg ada 10. which means kalau nak pegi mana2, nak beli souvenier dah double juga. nanti nak sediakan duit raya pun kene double juga. hoho..
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